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You've Got A Friend In Me

James 1:19 My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry (NIV)

    This is a verse that we should be striving to live by every single day. In my opinion, it is a particularly difficult one to walk out-- but maybe that's just me. Today this verse hit me in a different context than it has before.

    As believers, it is always our ultimate purpose to bring others to Jesus. Something I have learned about those who are hurting (AKA those who are needing to encounter Jesus) are that they really desire someone to listen to them. Our flesh is naturally selfish and consequently most people in the world do not stop to think about others. When we can offer someone even an ear to listen to their heart, it means the world to them. If we can just hear someone and actually care about what they are saying, we can make a huge impact on them.

    This does not mean, however, that they will share and you will share equal parts like a healthy relationship would. Usually, they need to unload some things on their mind and develop a trusting, loving relationship with you before they consider taking your advice on anything. This doesn't mean you're closed off with them, simply that you are not offering any unsolicited advice and are leaving lots of space for them to share.

    Lastly, our emotions are so important when leading someone to Jesus. It is a frustrating process! You may think someone is close to accepting Him, but then they turn around and get stuck in sin again. You may open yourself up only to be wounded. They might do some things that really upset you, but it is so important to the process that you stay strong. Have grace for them in their transition and have patience for their mistakes. This is what shows the true love of Christ to them and His nature of forgiveness and grace.

    These three characteristics, combined with unconditional love, are so important in showing others the heart of Jesus. Nothing draws someone in like a friend with open ears, an open heart, and amazing grace. The consequences of being frustrated and hurt are far outweighed by the possibility of Hell for another for not putting yourself out there. Be a true friend to those around you and extend the heart of Jesus.

1 John 4:8 Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. (NIV)

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